China 2019, day 15: Beijing






We were better parents today, but we still messed up. We started the day by taking the subway to the Beijing Google office to have breakfast. It was great. Then we took a taxi to the mall, and Ada took her first nap when we got there. We walked around the mall, located not one, but two indoor playgrounds, and got ourselves coffees at Starbucks. I never have Starbucks in the US. It’s really terrible, but in China the options are not that great when it comes to coffee. Then we walked around and looked at around at baby clothes and desks for young children.
When Ada woke up, we took her to the bigger playground. It’s great: it’s has a kind of a militaristic theme to it, but in a very subtle way: they use stencil fonts, and the play areas are loosely inspired by tanks, airplanes, and submarines:




There are even canons (which were not operational when we were there) that shoot balls to the ball pit and ziplines. The subtlety stops when you get to the urban warfare area:



We took a break for lunch at the mall and came back. Ada had fun, and I had blast. Then I started trying some more daring stuff with Ada, like letting her slide with me only grabbing her shirt, but that didn’t work very well, and I had to save her by pulling her up by the collar before she smashed her head to the ground. I tried having her on my knees as I went down the zipline, and when I landed, she almost flew away from me, but I caught her just before launched into the padded wall. Hey, I caught her and that what matters.  Then Julia said “ok, we’re tired”, and by that she meant that she’s tired of me trying to kill our daughter.
The next stop was Baigongfang. We could either take the subway or a taxi, and we reckoned that a taxi would be faster – we’d get there quickly and put Ada down for her second nap. But we messed up, again: with pretty bad traffic, the ride took 45 minutes, Ada started bawling just after we got into the cab, and wouldn’t you know it, I left her pacifier attached to the stroller that was in the trunk. This was one of the hardest things I had to go through as a parent. Ada was screaming her lungs out, and there was nothing I could do.
When we finally got out of the taxi, Julia tipped the taxi driver generously for the terrible experience. We put Ada down in her stroller with her pacifier, and she fell asleep immediately, still gasping to find her breath. We felt terrible, but Julia took it harder, and the stress manifested physically, to the point where she couldn’t think straight. I took over, rushing us to find a bathroom, and when we did, Julia threw up. It was that bad. We regrouped, I did my best to cheer Julia up, and we walked over to the Baigongfang.
Baigongfang, literally meaning “100 handicrafts workshop”, is home to dozens of small studios that specialize in old forms of Chinese craftsmanship, from jade carving to paper cuts. Every studio we walked into was extremely welcoming, and the art is really impressive:




We walked back to the subway and headed back to our hotel’s area. Ada, who slept through the whole thing, woke up just in time for the ride. Navigating the subway is tricky for many reasons, but mostly because people, in a way that is significantly more pronounced than the US, have their eyes glued to their phones. As they walk around the subway station, they watch videos, play games, and video chat. I have made this into a game months ago, where I deliberately lead the stroller in the path of people who don’t look where they’re going. Over the past few days in China I broke my personal record multiple times. Also, if you have an idea for a name for this game, I’d like to hear it. “iChicken” is the best I could come up with so far.
Then, there’s the problem of people shoving their way into the train before letting people out. I’m done being polite about this. Coming out of the train at our stop, I held Ada in one arm, extended both my elbows, and launched myself in a straight line out of the car. I heard the protests of at least five assholes who were not willing to let me out and now paid the price in the shape of my elbow in their ribs, but they didn’t realize that with each shriek they make, my powers get stronger. I managed out of the car, but Julia was still stuck inside with the stroller. I shoved one person out of her way and held the doors from closing. When she was out, an attendant told her that she should have planned better to get out. Julia yelled at her that people would just not let her out.
I feel totally fine with physically hurting people who act this way. They do this because there is no price that they have to pay for being dicks. I am bringing something new by setting a price range that is between a stroller hitting your shin bone to an elbow to ribs, and I hope more people adopt my pricing system. It’s the only way people would start considering whether it’s worth it for them to block other people from getting off the train or not.
We got out of the hotel, regrouped, and found a tiny restaurant, with only 4 tables, that served us simple yet fantastic food.
Tomorrow. Tomorrow we’ll be good parents.

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